Ups and downs are part of every relationship but if you ignore the problems and don’t try to solve them, it may lead to break up. You can avoid getting caught in relationship problems with the help of this guide:
- Stop arguing. Try to understand where your partner stands…
Hanif Kureishi, Intimacy (via quotethat)
After we’ve found our motivation, how do we stay on top of it? Maybe you’re trying to get fit, lose weight, or start your own business. Maybe you’re trying to do several things at once.
Getting motivated and inspired is the first step of a goal. We start going to the gym for the first week, set a schedule, make plans and things go smoothly at first. Soon after the enthusiasm begins fading and it becomes easy to end up at abandoning your goal.
These are some ways I found useful to stay on top of your goals, whatever they might be:
# 1: Start on easy goals – all goals take time and effort, and trying to accomplish more than three or four at a time is more than most people can. Try and pick your most important goals, and remember everything takes time. A good strategy is choosing goals that can relate to another (eg. If you’re trying to get fit, it may be a good idea to have a secondary goal of trying to eat healthier, whereas if you’re number one goal is to write a book, it may not be a good idea to work on starting a business at the same time).
You can learn a lot about your partner by looking at how they act when you’re arguing. A person’s conflict style can reveal a lot about their personality and their feelings towards you:
· They initiate arguments. If they have no qualms about confronting you or instigating arguments it’s a sign that they have an aggressive personality. They don’t like letting things go by the wayside and want to deal with conflict head on. This also shows that they care about your relationship – they don’t want to just let disagreements go, and they’d rather deal with them instead of letting hostility fester.
· They’re explosive. If they yell, burst into tears or act in any other emotionally explosive way, they are a passionate person. They care deeply about the relationship and have invested a lot of their emotions in it. They care about what you do and think, and take it personally when you’re upset about something.
· They shut down. If they storm off or shut down communication it means that they have difficulty dealing with stress and conflict. They would rather avoid it, which is why they try to leave. They care a lot about you and what you think, and want to avoid any situation or argument that reflects badly on them or casts a negative light on the relationship.